Day 9 of #31DaysOfRomance – Massage

Dandelion Date in a Box - #31daysofromance 2018 - day 9 – Massage

Day 9 of #31DaysOfRomance

Give each other a back or foot massage. 🤲🕯️

Youtube has an abundance of ‘How To Videos’ for any kind of massage. 

How to Give An Amazing Foot Massage:

- Tips from Footfiles -

Warm Up With a Foot Soak.

Start with a simple, warm footbath with ingredients of your choice.

Increase Blood Flow

Place a pillow on your lap and cover it with a soft towel. After drying your partner’s feet, place one foot at a time on the pillow. Use one hand to hold his/her foot by the heel, and use your other hand to gently rotate the foot in a clockwise circle motion three times and in a counterclockwise circle motion three times. Rotate each toe in the same manner. This helps to warm up the feet and get the blood circulating through the toes and ankles. Repeat on the other foot.

Melt Tension With Arch Pressure

Place some foot cream, massage oil or coconut oil into your thumbs and then place each on the center of his/her foot arch, directly below the ball of the foot. With light pressure, rub your thumbs in small circles, one going clockwise, the other going counterclockwise. Do this stress-melting arch technique for about 30 seconds to a minute to help melt away the stresses of the day. Follow up by applying more lotion or oil to your hands and then walking your thumbs up and down the entire length of the foot, using firm pressure. Then slide your thumbs up and down the length of the foot. Do this for several minutes, or for as much time as you can handle without getting tired.

Try Some Tender Toe Techniques

Give each and every toe on the foot a light squeeze with your thumb and index finger, and then use your thumbs to make small clockwise or counterclockwise circles just beneath each toe. Give each toe about 15 seconds of this relaxing treatment to help reduce pressure in the feet and toes.

Soothe the Sole

Starting at the ball of the foot, use your thumbs to make small circles (one thumb going clockwise, the other going counterclockwise) all the way up and down the length of the sole, adding extra pressure as you near the heel. Do this for several minutes, or as long as you can last without getting too tired.

Feel Good Finish

Either use your thumb and forefinger to gently squeeze the hollow area below the ankle for several seconds, or use your fingers to gently rub the Achilles tendon (the springy band of tissue that runs from the heel and ankle up through the calf muscles of the leg). Your partner may give you extra thanks if you choose to do both. After all, this is supposed to be the world’s most pain-relieving, stress-reducing, toe-curling, pleasurable foot massage ever. It’s up to you to make it that way!

– All credit for these tips / steps goes to Footfiles

Day 8 of #31DaysOfRomance – Listen

Dandelion Date in a Box - #31daysofromance 2018 - day 8 – Listen

Day 8 of #31DaysOfRomance

👄 Ask your partner about their day and genuinely listen. 👂

Suggestions / Tips To Be A Better Listener:

  • Don’t interrupt your partner while he/she is talking. 
  • Focus your attention on your partner without fiddling about and make eye contact.
  • Encourage your partner to speak freely about what’s on their mind.
  • Ask clarifying questions when there’s a break/pause from your partner.
  • Ask questions only to ensure understanding and not to patronise or ‘entertain’ your partner.
  • Give feedback by conveying what you’re understanding from what they are saying.
  • Keep an open mind throughout the conversation.
  • Show that you’re listening by using appropriate body language.
  • Don’t start an argument or try to throw your weight around at their problems in an attempt to make them feel better.
  • Resist the urge to give a solution to all your partners’ worries right away.
  • Be realistic and respond appropriately by reading the situation. Try to picture yourself in a similar situation before you start judging.
  • Pay attention to what your partner isn’t saying by keeping an eye on their body language.

Day 5 of #31DaysOfRomance – Make Their Favourite Dessert

Day 4 of #31DaysOfRomance – Hug Them

Dandelion Date in a Box - #31daysofromance 2018 - day 4 - Hug Them

Day 4 of #31DaysOfRomance

Fit in a 5-minute hug today.

 Hugging increases levels of the “love hormone” oxytocin, which is beneficial for stress levels, heart health, and more… 

The Benefits of Hugging Include:

  1. Hugs act as nonverbal communication.
  2. Hugging improves your happiness.
  3. Hugging can lessen feelings of isolation, increase bonds and strengthen relationships.
  4. Hugging can reduce anxiety.
  5. Hugging can help fight fears.
  6. Hugging reduces stress.
  7. Hugging boosts your immune system.
  8. Hugging is a great pain reliever.
  9. Hugging can protect you against heart disease.
  10. Hugging relaxes muscles.